If you have discovered this site because you are struggling in your relationship and don’t know which was is up, I hope these pages encourage you. When this journey started for me, I didn’t know it was a journey. All I knew is that I had just married a beautiful woman and I was so excited to be in love… but then the judgments, the accusations, and criticisms began almost immediately, and the arguments that I couldn’t even figure out how they even became arguments. We were just talking about what kind of wine to have with dinner and suddenly we were in a full scale conflict.
What happened? Did I say something wrong? Did I do something wrong? I would try to discuss what happened with her but we couldn’t even agree on the facts so how could we understand why we had even argued.
After months of seemingly daily conflict, I began to journal. It took awhile but as I journaled, I started to gain some clarity, first about what happened but with no idea why it had happened. She had admitted to a certain level of anxiety and even PTSD before we were married but I thought that her anxiety was more related to her circumstances and the stresses of where she was in life at that moment and that I had an absolute jewel of a wife who, when the current circumstances were replaced with a loving husband, be the “catch” of the century. I certainly had no idea that it was about mental illness.
My hope is that perhaps this blog will help you recognize some things in your own life or a relationship you are in. Perhaps you are the one with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), or perhaps you are living with someone who is BPD. In either case, there is hope. I wish I knew sooner what I know now. Perhaps it would have made a difference.
Punched in the Nose 