The analogy is about a man who goes home and his wife punches him in the nose and he says he doesn’t like that and tells her to stop and she says I’m sorry. But the next night he goes home and she punches him in the nose again and he says stop doing that and she says I’m sorry. But then the next night he goes home and she punches him in the nose again and he says stop doing that and she says I’m sorry.
The question becomes how long will the man continue to allow himself to be punched in the nose?
With April, she punches me in the nose and I tell her to stop I don’t like that and she says you’re acting like a baby. And the next night she punches me in the nose again and I tell her to stop I don’t like that and she says that I’m demanding and pushy and bossy and controlling. And the next night she punches me in the nose and I tell her to stop I don’t like that and she says I’m complaining because I don’t get my way. And the next night she punches me in the nose and I tell her I don’t like that and she tells me to be quiet and just listen. And the next night she punches me in the nose and I tell her stop I’m not taking this anymore and she tells me I’m playing the victim. And the next night she punches me in the nose again and I tell her to stop knock it off and she says “stop trying to fix me”.
And the next night she punches me in the nose and I tell her I can’t take this anymore I need you to stop punching me in the nose and she says “Look in the mirror, David. I’m not punching you in the nose. You’re walking into my fist.”
Punched in the Nose 